Creating a true partnership means that it’s hardly ever a 50/50 divide. Life is too unpredictable. We need to be able to flex with our (and our partner’s) needs. Enter Brene Brown’s daily check-in with her husband: Each of them communicate how much gas they have left in the tank. (If you don’t have a partner, you can do this check-in with yourself.) Somedays he’ll come home and say, ‘I only have 20%.’ To which, she responds, ‘Don’t worry. I’ve got the other 80.’ Other days, she replies, ‘I only have 20%, too.’ They then have a sit down to map out how they are going to cover the other 60, such as order food in, get the housekeeper for an extra day, and cancel un-energizing plans. How much do you (and your partner) have in your tank?