When I'm having an issue with someone, my first reaction is to ruminate on all they are doing wrong. But, we can't change others. We can only change our own reactions.
Even worse, blaming others sets you up as a victim, disempowered from improving the situation. That's why I was inspired by this one couple's simple solution -- asking each other every day, "How can I make your day better?"
I love this because it turns emotional issues into concrete positive actions you can do to improve the situation. It also shows that you understand that you are partly to blame (which, let's be honest, we always are).
Asking this question with authenticity saved their marriage. What relationships in your life could use a little T.L.C.?